Tribal leadership in business?

May 27th, 2010

I was doing my usual sweep of the web looking for new keynote speeches when I ended up watching a video clip on TED.com of David Logan talking about ‘Tribal Leadership’

In my corporate days I’d come across various psychometric testing tools such as Myers Briggs, Belbin and such like as well as the meta-programs in NLP, which are designed to give an insight in to how people think and operate. Listening to David, his theory added a further layer of looking at human behaviour from a group level and understanding how it manifests itself in organisational culture.

The basic premise is that we seek out people like us and form tribes based on how we see the world. In fact this is how society is formed.

David’s keynote explained that there are 5 key stages of tribes and tribe formation which help can helps understand them better.

Stage 1 Where people say “life sucks” – These are people see no hope for the world, they can see point in contribution and where they are cut off from or have cut themselves off from society. Examples here are prisoners, gangs and underground culture.

Stage 2 Where people say “My life sucks” – These are people who are unfulfilled with their own lives, the see no future for themselves, in terms of their job or career prospects – their job is a means to an end and a seen a just a cog an a system over which they have little influence. Think civil service, government agencies, public sector

Stage 3 Where people say “I’m great and you’re not” – The typical blue chip corporate culture. It’s about individuals out doing other individuals, the mantra is “We/I am better than you!.” To get ahead you have to be in competition with others, you are are pit against colleagues and measure against one another. Here politics are formed, motives are general about self preservation, it’s all about “what’s in it for me?”

Stage 4 Where people say “We’re great”. It’s where people come together for a greater purpose beyond themselves. It’s doesn’t have to be a humanitarian purpose – just a common goal that brings or unites the group. They see the value in collaboration, co-operation and sharing. This is where innovation thrives, where revolution is born, where transformation happens and revolutionaries exist.

Stage 5 Life is great – Leadership at the highest level, change the world kind of stuff. This is beyond the self, beyond the us and for good greater that the collective at much higher level.

In today’s ever competitive landscape where advances in technology and globalisation have transformed the way business is done and I believe that it is stage 4 tribes that will survive and prosper in this new economy. It is the organisations that embrace the need to move to a more collaborative approach to working and understand that harnessing the power of talent across functions, disciplines and responsibilities that will be most successful for the long term.

Stage 4 is where visionary, leading, cutting edge companies and organisations operate.

David’s team concluded that it is the ‘culture’ that drives the way the tribes behave and by culture I am talking about the ‘way in which things are done around here’.

Leadership in these businesses understand that it is them who drive culture. They know that when you take a group of people and unite them under one common goal which is greater than their own individual goals, interesting things begin to happen.

I was lucky enough to have been part of an organisation that did this really well in the UK. In 1998 a quirky bank called egg took on the giants of the credit card industry and promised to ‘revolutionise the experience of financial services for it’s customers through unleashing the power of people’

Rather than represent a ‘tick in the box’ for having a mission statement that so many other companies seem to do, the difference with egg was that this became part of it’s DNA. It wasn’t just a lofty ambition…it was the core purpose. It was the reason why people came to work. It was what drove the daily decisions made. It was what people referred to when needing direction. It was what the collective stood for.

When you have people from different ‘tribes’ and with such varying models of the world it becomes even more critical that the possibility being described was engaging enough for each stage of the tribes. Egg’s leadership team not only understood that their job was to give people that possibility to live into in a manner where they could then entrust them to deliver, but also once they moved people there to keep them there.

Few will argue that what they achieved in the UK market in such a short space of time was remarkable.

The approach to leadership at egg isn’t just reserved for big business…it’s just as and I would argue even more critical for smaller business to give their people a common purpose and possibility to live into. Think about it how much impact does one person not pulling in the same direction have in your business?

I invite you to find out what tribes exist in your business.

Start to observe people, I mean really observe people. How we see the world drives our behaviour and behaviour is simply the external evidence to what is really going on inside.

Ask ‘How do you people interact?’ ‘How do they react to change?’ ‘How do people get ahead in your company?’

Listen for how people communicate. What is their language saying? Do they speak “we” or “I”? Is “can’t” a commonly used word? How do they describe their prospects and they way they feel about their work?

Leading Ladies?

May 19th, 2010

In recent weeks the British people have seen a potentially defining moment in it’s political history as two opposing parties came together to form a coalition government as they take on the challenge of stabilising the country.

There are sceptics, doubters and experts that see nothing but failure. How can two parties with such opposing views really work together?

What I am wondering is would it make any difference if the two leaders were women?

Would the tactics have been the same? Would we be looking at the possibility of a successful government in a more positive light?  Come to think of it would we have voted any differently?

Before you answer, consider the following.

A few years ago I came across quote in Business week from Bruce Nussbaum who said “We are in the midst of a cultural shift that involves leadership shifting from the voice of authority to the voice of understanding. Listening, understanding, connecting and communicating are the key skills the business culture today and the essence of true leadership”

If we are to believe that this is the case, then when it comes to skills like listening, understanding and connecting women simply have the upper hand. They rock.

In her book  The First Sex: The Natural Talents of Women and How They Are Changing The World, Dr. Helen Fisher argues that “The twenty-first century economic community are going to need the natural talents of women. …Women have many exceptional faculties bred deep in history: a talent for words; a capacity to read non-verbal cues; emotional sensitivity; empathy; patience; an ability to do and think several things simultaneously;…a penchant for long term planning; a gift for networking and negotiating; and a preference for cooperating, reaching consensus, and leading via egalitarian teams”

There are countless other books and pieces of research which bring out similar ideas.

Tom Peter’s author of the best seller “In search of excellence” describes in his later work that there is a set of attributes found more commonly in women than in men.

  • Women practice improvisation skills with greater ease than men
  • Women are more self determined and more trust sensitive than men
  • Women appreciate and depend upon their intuition more than men do
  • Women, unlike men, focus naturally on empowerment not on power
  • Women develop relationships with greater facility than men.
  • Women are far less rank conscious than men.

Men like structure. We like boundaries and rules which define or describe ‘our place.’ Which is why I commonly find that men relate to being a leader as a position that you hold as oppose to a behaviour you exhibit. Men see leadership is a task of tangible outcomes and not the emotive animal that it is.

So would the coalition government stand a greater chance of success if the leaders were women?

Well, I guess we will never know for sure but I do believe we could say that a female leadership team maybe better equipped to lead a collaborative team than their male counter parts. They would probably connect with greater ease and comfort than their male counter parts and listen far more.

There is one factor to consider above all of this that could pour cold water on to some of these arguments. The corporate world is still very male dominated and the danger would be that in order to get ahead women in more senior roles are having to take on the traits of their male counterparts, forced to operate in manner that is the opposite of what is required in the ‘new’ economy.

So what do you see in your organisations and businesses?

Do you see difference between male and female leaders? Do you agree that those differences exists and indeed are they important in today’s world?

Why every business leader should develop their speaking skills.

March 26th, 2010

Speaking - a critical skill

If you’ve ever managed people or tried to get a group of people to do something in business you’ll know how frustrating it can be when you don’t quiet get the results you wanted.

So who’s fault is that? Many  would look towards their people and make the assumption that “they didn’t listen” or perhaps “they just don’t get it”.

How interesting that we look to the capacity of others to understand the message we deliver but seldom question our own ability or effectiveness in conveying the message.

As a leader in business your job is to motivate, inspire and lead your people to execute your plan. It’s fair to say then that your speaking skills are critical to this process, after all if you can’t get them to listen, how can you expect them to follow through with actions?

Whether you’re speaking to your staff or your prospective customers, it’s your ability to capture their attention and imagination with your message that  is going to define your results. So really when you look at it in the cold light of day, the responsibility sits firmly with you.

It’s not that people don’t want to listen, it’s just that your message has to find it’s way through all their other distractions. It doesn’t matter if you’re speaking to one or many, whether it is a sales or conference call, a team meeting or a sales presentation; the truth is you have short window of opportunity to captivate the listener, create the desired impact and inspire them to take action. In a world where people are bombarded with more and more information, that window of opportunity is shrinking fast.

Refining, developing and learning speaking skills is a must, otherwise you’re just wasting time in front of an audience that’s not listening. Sure, they maybe there in body but are they off on a mental trip across the globe while you’re trying to share important information?

Communication experts across the world agree that it’s the speaker that makes the difference when it comes to engaging the audience. Don’t be fooled into thinking that it’s personality, charm or charisma that makes that difference either. The most charismatic of leaders can have their message fall on deaf ears. No, it’s to do with your presence, integrity and ability to connect with others that is the defining factor.

We’ve all been in presentations where your eyes glaze over or you start looking at your watch wondering when the break is. Is that the kind of impact you want to have on your audience?

So here are some tips to perk up your presentations.

  • Make a point and tell a story – This phrase transformed by presentations. When you are trying to get into people’s mind the last they want is a bunch of numbers, statements and boring data. You have to bring what you are saying to life, make it interesting and make them take notice. Yes the data and information is important but in order to make it real share a story or personal experience that illustrates the point.
  • Keep distractions to a minimum – In the business world we have become accustomed to using powerpoint slides and flip charts, but many of the speakers I come across end up using them as a prompt or worse still read from them word for word! If you are going to use props like powerpoint be careful to ensure that they don’t become the focal point. You are the messenger not the slides!
  • People will forget 90% of what you say – If you think that everyone in the audience is hanging on your every word then you are sadly mistaken. Yes you may be passionate about your topic but they’re not. Your focus instead should be on stirring up emotions. Think about the best speeches you’ve ever heard, do you remember everything or a specific message because of the way it made you feel?
  • Slow Down – One of the biggest mistakes in delivering a message is speaking or moving too fast. SLOW down…take a breath and pace yourself. The speed at which you speak is probably faster than you think and what you hear inside your head is probably much faster than what they hear!
  • Say it, don’t read it. – The best messages are delivered when it doesn’t feel like a speech. It’s a conversation and should come across that way. If you write a speech out do so using the words you would use normally (obviously there are exceptions!) and not elaborate phrases. You should sound natural and not robotic or over rehearsed.

So, act now. Make the decision to upgrade one of the most important skills that you can posses in business. It make sense to invest in a skill which is universal and easily transferred no matter where your career path or business will take you.

Why developing your speaking skills is critical to your success in business and your career.

March 22nd, 2010


If you think public speaking is all about standing on a platform behind an auto cue and motivating the audience through an elaborate PA system with a headset microphone, then you are sadly mistaken.

As a business owner, leader, entrepreneur, consultant or coach speaking in public is one the most critical skills you should develop in order to bring you success.

Speaking in business means speaking at meetings, in interviews, with potential clients, colleagues, and customers. In today’s hi-tech world of video casting technology and the popularity of social media it now also includes video blogging, podcasting, teleconferencing, and making corporate videos or appearing in the national media.

Simply public speaking is anytime you need to deliver message and influence an audience through the spoken word.

It’s art that when mastered will improve your career prospects and your business results. Employers consistently rank speaking and communication skill as one of the key skills they look for. In fact both undergraduate and graduate Business school alumni who attended the University of Minnesota placed oral communication at the top of a list of skills that were relevant to overall job success

Being an effective leader requires the ability to communicate and inspire. Public speaking skills are a essential part of being able to communicate effectively. When you think about it, most problems in business are down to poor communication. Increasing your ability to get your message across means you will reduce the problems you experience and save valuable time in the long run.

You will increase your capability to express your ideas, influence your colleagues to explore options, work collaboratively with greater confidence.

There is also evidence that shows that people who good at speaking in public have higher levels of confidence and self esteem. If you can engage your audience with your message and do it with impact, integrity and credibility you will have a formula which all but guarantees you success.

Like all skills you learn the abilities you develop as a speaker will spill over in to other areas and bring about benefits in other areas of your life.

In short, speaking in public is a critical skill for anyone who is serious about their business or career.

What is the “Leadership Mindset” ?

March 18th, 2010

This week I was delivering a leadership workshop with a partner company to a group of senior managers working within a large blue chip organisation.

One of the questions we asked the group to contemplate was “What is the leadership mindset?” The question drew out some interesting responses. Some described it as a set of beliefs, values and attitudes to empower people, whilst others talked about leaders being born not made and that the “mindset” was either there or not.

For me the mindset for leadership is a simple shift in thinking and in priorities which moves you focus from ‘you’ to ‘them’ and therefore I side with Robin Sharma when he says “leaders can be trained” as I believe leaders are made not born.

The glory in leadership comes not from what you achieve but from what you help others to accomplish. It’s a selfless journey into empowering your people to better themselves and perform to their greatest ability. The priority of a leader is to remove the interference that gets in the way and instead create pathways which lead to peak performance.

More than that though, leadership is about authenticity. It’s about being real.

The problem is that in many businesses and organisations ‘leadership’ is something people think that you do. Leaders are ticking boxes or carrying out a set of functions rather than actually leading. Why? Because as much as companies may demand that people be themselves at work, but the ‘unwritten rules’ in organisations stop that from happening.

People become fearful of being the real them and instead create a ‘persona’ which fits the bill and keeps them ‘safe’. Which then perpetuates a culture where people fail to be transparent and adopt strategies to look after themselves first.

The further you journey into the world of leadership the more you have to be real. People can spot a fake a mile off. I am sure you know or have known with people that claim to be one way but in reality are very different, if not look to the world of celebrities for countless examples. To lead you must be the same person ‘off stage’ as you are ‘on stage’ to truly win the hearts and minds of the people. Your teams will notice even the slightest of inconsistencies between what you say and what you do. This video from www.50lessons.com is a great example of who a CEO stood for one thing in all that he said but his actions failed to match.

As leader you drive the culture. It is your actions that define how people around you will behave and respond.  If you demand people have a particular stand but you fail to hold up that same standard then you lose credibility and you know how incredibly difficult  it is to win it back.

So ask yourself, how real are you as a leader? If you were in the audience with your people watching you, what inconsistencies might you see? Do actions match your words?

The world IS Flat!

January 28th, 2010

swami_000

We attended a great event yesterday and met a great guy called Joel Roberts. Joel has work in the media in the US for a number of years and he specialises helping businesses use the principles of the media world to grab and keep our attention into how they communicate their business message.

What was interesting and why we’re writing this post was that Joel referred to a book called the “The World is Flat” by Thomas L. Friedman. The book is about globalisation and impact on the landscape for business.

Friedman got the idea for the book after he visited the CEO of Infosys in Bangalore – the Silicon Valley of India. Upon arriving he was taken to a huge room with great big screens that had live video streaming from London, New York, Jedda, Cape Town, LA to name but a few. What he had walked into was global conference being hosted from India in real time. The story goes that the CEO turned and with a smile said “The playing field has been levelled hasn’t it?”

So why is of relevance to you?

Well, as a result of this ‘levelling of the playing field’ your competitors are now not just on your local High Street. They are not even just in your Town or City, most probably not even in the same Country. Your fiercest competitor could now be sat any where in the world. Technology advances mean that the whole world is now connected.

Secondly, whilst technology has exported to the far reaches of the globe so has the attention span of the Western world. People’s attention spans are shorter now than ever before – we think in 30 second chunks!

So here’s the challenge for your businesses. You have to get your message to stand out from the thousands of competitors and capture the dwindling attention of the cyber generation.

Now that’s a challenge.

One of the first things you can do is to start thinking in terms of problems. There are 2 kinds of problems  - the ones you have and the ones you don’t. You are in the business of either solving the problems your customers have or help them see that they have the problem you want them to have..as Joel would say “You are in the problem distribution business”

To begin to clarify your message, ask yourself “What problem’s do your customers lay awake at night thinking about and how does what you have solve them?”

You can live 16 years longer….just think about it!

January 21st, 2010

tiger

Yesterday I was at a networking meeting where a friend shared the results of an interesting study about the impact of mental conditioning on life expectancy. Before I tell you about that, I want to give you a little background.

He began talking about his recent trip to Australia’s Steve Irwin Zoo and how he witnessed a miracle in the tiger enclosure. He saw a young trainer swimming about in the man made pool with not just one but several tigers playing with her in the water.

I am assuming you have seen and appreciate how big tigers are. You really don’t want to be messing about with them!

So amazed was he that he asked one the other trainers how this was possible. “It’s all about attitude” he was told. “You have to have positive mental attitude because these amazing cats can smell fear.” He was told that the training team approach the tigers with love each morning and play with them and at night before they sleep the same happens. He was also told that if on any day any member of the team was not feeling 100% they were not allowed to interact with the tigers.

So what has all this go to do with business?

Well, isn’t it true that at times we feel like the people out there we do business with are like tigers on the prowl? Now, if you were to approach these people whether they are sales prospects, suppliers, debtors or partners with an mental attitude which was even just a little negative, what do you think happens?

Human’s can ‘smell’ that fear too. We can see when someone is not 100% confident. We get a gut instinct that tells us that something is not right. don’t we?

So a key to our success is adopting the a positive mental attitude. We have to think and act like a champion. I say act as well because just thinking it is not enough.

What happens when you try and sell when you’re not feeling 100% in your mind? What happens when you try and have those difficult conversation and don’t believe 100% in what you are doing? How much time do you spend giving yourself “love” or do you spend all day beating yourself up?

Mohammed Ali always told himself “I am the greatest” win, lose or draw. AND he acted like the greatest. He trained like the greatest, he spoke like the greatest, he walked like the greatest, he thought like the greatest, what did he become?

The Mayo clinic in the US did study that showed that optimists are healthier, recover fester and live long then their pessimist counterparts. It was calculated that on average some one who is an optimist will out live pessimist by 16 years!

Just by adopting a more positive attitude in life can increase your life expectancy, all you have to do is think about it!

What do you REALLY want?

November 17th, 2009

Martin, Joseph & Vinay

Martin, Joseph & Vinay at NLP Meets the Secret in London

What a great night we had yesterday in London with one of our inspirations Joseph McClendon III.

Joseph has been in the personal development business for over 20 years and has been working with Tony Robbins for much of that. He is a great speaker, presenter and coach and if you haven’t seen him speak you really should check him out!

At the seminar last night, Joseph was talking about creating a successful life and he focused very much on one of our key principles and teachings which is all about understanding with absolute clarity what it is that you really want.

When he asked the audience of 700 people how many knew exactly what they wanted, only about 20 arms went up. Isn’t that amazing?

You see, knowing what you really want with specificity and clarity is the first step to living the life you want. We talk about the difference between destination and direction in the FREE e-book on our website (you can sign up for it by completing the box on the left!) and how just having direction is not enough for true fulfilment and success, you need to know the exact co-ordinates. When you focus on what you want, guess what? You have a greater chance of getting it!

The crazy thing is that most people spend most of their time focusing on what they don’t want. They don’t want debt, they don’t want to be over weight, they don’t want another failed relationship.

So do yourself some good. Get some pen and paper and start to write down ALL of the things you WANT.  Don’t just settle for what you think you can have but what is it that you REALLY want, exactly want in your life!

If it’s money, how much? A new car, which one? A house? What will it look like? A better body, what will you look like?

Be specific create your self a vivid picture in your mind’s eye and the let the journey begin!

It’s all about mental toughness!

October 1st, 2009
Team Five Alive - Three Peaks Challenge 2009
Team Five Alive – Three Peaks Challenge 2009

My brother and his friends recently completed the Three Peaks Challenge which involves climbing the the three highest mountains in the UK over 24hr period. It’s no mean feat!

The boys did great, they completed the task and raised over £5000 for the Anthony Nolan Trust which I sure you will agree is a fantastic achievement.

I agreed to pick them up from Mount Snowdon after the last decent, though i didn’t bank on driving a mini bus full of very excited wives and girls friends – but that’s another story.

The luxury of today’s mod cons meant that we got regular updates and as we got close we learned that two of the lads had suffered set backs as they’re knees gave in after completing the second climb. They rest had gone on.

Here is the crazy thing, even though they had completed two of the highest peaks in the UK – over 6,500 ft – they still felt liked they’d failed.

Go figure that? Most people wouldn’t climb 1000 ft let alone 6500ft!

Isn’t it interesting that even after a such an achievement the focus goes on failure?

The group that went on to complete the third peak included my youngest brother. When he finally made it back, he talked about how he almost gave up after seeing the impact on his friends on the second mountain. So I asked him what kept him going and he told me that it was all about mental state. Even through his body was saying “no more” his mind and mental strength focusing on ‘why’ he was doing this carried him and the rest of the team through.

As one of my great teachers Steve Siebold says in his book ‘177 Mental Toughness secrets of the world class’

“When a performer begins to experience physical or emotional pain in the heat of the battle, the brain, whose primary role is self preservation, asks the question: “why must I suffer?”. The champion will answer the questions with the vision they have carefully constructed , and will continue to fight….”

Lessons from a Snake Master.

March 18th, 2009

I was watching Austin Stevens Snake Master this morning on the Discovery channel as I tucked into my bowl of Honey Nut Shredded Wheat (mmmm!) and he was on one of his crazy quests in the Amazon Rain Forrest.


I’m not sure if you’ve seen this guy before but he is nuts – He is like “Steve Irwin” for grown ups!

In this episode he was making his way through the dense growth of the Amazon when he narrowly avoids a huge falling branch which crushes the camp he had set up a few metres away. Austin explains that more people are killed by falling branches in the Amazon each year than by snake bites.

He then went onto explain that this falling of trees and branches was a natural process and that actually it was about creating life. You could stand there and be sad that a 100 year old tree had collapsed and caused enormous damaged to the surrounding area as it fell, but the gap that has been created allows the light to shine through so that the smaller saplings and vegetation can continue to grow stronger.

It got me thinking about two things that relates to life in general.

Firstly, you would think that snakes pose a bigger threat than huge branches. Sometime I guess we are that focused on the obvious dangers that we fail to keep our awareness open enough to notice what else is happening around us.

Second, in the journey of life we will suffer loss of some kind -  maybe financial loss, emotional loss or even loss of things we own. It’s part of the system. Like the trees is the Amazon which fall to create space so the light can get in, our loss creates windows for the light to reach parts of us that have lived in the shade for too long and allow them to grow.

When my mother died tragically a few years ago, it tore my world apart. The sense of loss was unbearable but over time the light started to shine through and reach the parts of me that had been hidden for so long – the true passion that I felt about life began to grow. It was then that I decided to do what I do now, had she still be alive perhaps that passion would not have been ignited.

Yes we (all) can!

January 16th, 2009

On Tuesday 20th January 2009 the world will sit back and watch as a new legacy begins. I’m talking of course about the inauguration of US President Elect Barak Obama.

Beyond all the glitz and glamour, hype and sensationalism, and cliched headlines, what the world will be witnessing is the achievement of a goal. Whatever President Obama and his team have achieved it could not have been done without the creation of a clearly defined, well formed goal. Without that key ingredient it wouldn’t have mattered what resources they had, how much financial strength they could amass, or how good a speaker President Obama was, they would not have won that election…at least not in the manner in which they did.

Having set your goals, what happens next?

All the greatest plans in the world are worthless unless you actually do something about them. We’ve all heard the phrase “actions speak louder than words” right? You need to take immediate action to get where you want to be. You don’t just set your Sat Nav destination and sit there do you? No, you have to fire up your engine and start driving! Far too many people write their goals down and then sit back waiting for them to happen all by themselves. Trust me, this will not work… (I know this from personal experience)

How do you take action? Simple. Do one thing differently NOW that will get you closer to your goal.

This is where so many people fail. They look at what they want to achieve, where they are now, and then do one of two things: a) they go at it hard and try to make all the changes at once or b) they look at all the things they need to do and are so overwhelmed they think “forget it, it’s too hard”.

I agree with Tony Robbins when he says “Most people over estimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can achieve in a life time” Think about it. Every year in January fitness centres see hundreds of new people keen to lose weight. These people are excited and committed but within a couple of months the 4 times a week routine turns into a 4 times a quarter routine! If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone I’ve been one of them!

Trying to do too much in one go can be just as damaging as doing nothing. So pick the one thing you can do NOW that will get you closer to your goal and do it consistently for the next 4 weeks. It doesn’t matter how big or small it is, the key is that it must be different to what you are doing now.

What are your plans for 2009?

January 6th, 2009

Can you believe that 2009 is already upon us? I don’t know about you but the last 12 months have just flown by in what seems like a record time that Usain Bolt would be proud of!

So, how was 2008 for you? Being the kind of person you are, I’m guessing you will have had some goals or targets set out for the year. Did you achieve all you set out to?

I don’t know what your answer will be but I do know that most people I talk to don’t actually achieve what they set out to. Many end up in the vicinity but few actually land on “X” that marks the spot.

So, what’s the difference between those that hit the bull’s eye and those that land on the outside of the board you might ask? Well, there is no one definitive answer but there are some key points which contribute to the difference. One of them is the way in which successful people structure theirs goals.

Now, I’m pretty confident that you already know something about setting goals and about how much more likely you are to achieve them if you write them down versus carrying them around in your head. (over 50% more likely for the record.)

However it’s not just about writing them down. Many people who set goals fail to achieve them in the way they wanted because the directions they give themselves were not “tight” enough. Let me give you an example – “I want to make more money” – that’s a fairly generic statement. It’s kind of like getting in your car and programming your Sat Nav to take you North.

There is a specific proven structure to setting out goals which all but guarantees your success.

Here are some key questions to ask yourself when structuring your goals for 2009 which I believe will get you closer to that “X” on your map : -

Make sure you state your goal in the positive – What specifically do you want?
It never ceases to amaze me that when I ask people what they want, the first 10 things they tell me are what they don’t want!
Be sure to write what you actually want. It should be something you are moving towards as opposed to something you are moving away from. For example when working with people who are overweight they often come along with a goal of “losing weight”. This is still a negative statement. “Losing” is moving away from something as opposed to “ I want to achieve my ideal weight of 75lbs” which is a positive moving towards statement.

Where you are starting from.
In order for you to begin to plan your journey you need to know where you are starting from. Be clear about where you are now. For example continuing on from the weight example above “I am 15 stone and 7 pounds with a body fat ratio of 27%. My waist is 36 inches and and I have a 17 inch collar. I can jog up to 5 minutes without stopping and have never lifted any weights. I skip breakfast everyday and drink 5 cups of coffee with 4 sugars in each.”

What will it be like when you achieve this?
In as much detail as possible begin to create a picture of it will be like when you achieve your goal. What will you see around you? What will the colours be like? Who else is in the picture?
What about the sounds? What will you be saying to yourself? What will others say about you? What else can you hear? Is there any music?
How will you feel having achieved you goal? Describe the sensations as much as you can. Where in your body will they be? Are the hot or cold? Are they still or moving? What’s the intensity like?

What’s your evidence for success?
Just as you look for signs that you’ve reached your destination, you need to ask yourself how you will know when you have achieved your goal.
What will be present? What will be missing? For example “ I’ll know I have achieved my goal when I am able to run for 10 miles without stopping and can fit comfortably into my favorite pair of Levis jeans”

Is this what you really want?
Ask yourself is this what YOU really want? Is this goal about you or about what you think others want you to do? If you are not fully congruent with it the chances are you will nit keep up the action required. Think about what achieving this goal will enable you to do or what it will get for you?

Is this goal only for you?
It’s important that the goal is self maintained and is for you only. Often people set goals that involve other people changing what they do. For example “I’ll start my training plan once my boss stops asking me to work late.”

When you rely on someone or something else to change in order for you to achieve your goal you are effectively giving up your responsibility and personal power. What happens if they never do what you need them to do? What ownership will you take?

What’s the context for this goal?
It’s important to remember that achieving a goal in one context doesn’t automatically make it appropriate in another. You should be clear about where and when you want to achieve this goal. For example if you had a goal of “Being more loving and affectionate with your partner” it would be inappropriate for this to be achieved in a work environment.

What resources do you need to achieve this?
In order for you to achieve your goal what resources do you already have that you can use?  We often forget what we already have, so it’s important to search deep and look at what resources are already present in your life that will enable you to start your journey. For example continuing on from the weight loss scenario, you may state that “you have some training clothes, some running shoes, a skipping rope and park nearby to run in.”

Have you ever done this before? Again, people often forget what they have done in their past. If you look back at your past you’ll be amazed at what you have already done in your life. For example, you may look back as far a school and gym/P.E. classes in terms of looking at when you may have exercised before.

Do you know anyone else who as done this? We live in a highly networked world now, so the chances are that you will know someone who knows someone that may have done what you are looking to do. Tapping into that resource can help you understand what other resources you may need.

Is this ecological?
The process of setting up goals and targets can be very self focused. It’s important to check in with yourself as to how you achieving this goal will affect the people around you including loved ones, and how the environment is impacted. To help you uncover some of the impacts asks yourself:

For what purpose you want this?
What would you gain or lose by having this goal?
What will happen if you get it?
What won’t happen if you get it?
What will happen if you don’t get it?
What won’t happen if you don’t get it?

By following these steps and asking yourself there questions I’m confident that you can constructed a well formed goal and have a great chance of achieving what you want.

So get started, have some fun and craft out your successes for 2009!

Is the credit crunch really to blame for Woolworth's demise?

December 23rd, 2008

Isn’t the power of the media amazing?

The latest example of this is the claim that Woolworth’s demise is down to the credit crunch. Far from it.

The Woolworths story is yet another example of what happens when you fail to respond to your operating enviroment and make changes. Whilst organisations such as Kodak adapt to the changes companies like Woolworths and MFI continue to do what they always done. OK, so they may have revamped their stores and decor but beyond that what have they done to change the way in which they operate?

Kodak saw the changes in the photography market. They saw the rise of digital photography and instead of continuing to produce negatives they began to produce paper, printers, software and other accessories which would embrace the changes and keep customer close.

Woolworths on the other hand did not change the way the operated. They have sold they same stuff in the same way for last decade. Whilst the world has gone digital, they have stayed analogue.

This is not limited to business, we as humans are also guilty of the same unawareness that could result in our demise so to speak. When was the last time you looked at what you do and the results you get with a view to changing the way you do things?

Are you a Woolworths or a Kodak?

How the simple sound of laughter can change your life!

December 15th, 2008

Sometimes it can take just a simple change to make the biggest difference.

In human performance there is a great emphasis placed on one’s “state” , that is our emotional and physical condition at anyone moment in time. The greatest performers on the planet are not always those with the most talent but those who are able to manage their state most effectively. I mean just think of how many talented footballers there have been over there years who have a flash of brilliance and then disappear while the most consistent stick around.

Ask Tiger Wood’s about golf and he will tell you that it’s 90% mental ability.

There are lots of tools for managing “state”, but here is a really simple one.

Check out this video as a demonstration of how a easily you can change your state instantly!

I dare you to try this for just a week!

The real X factor.

December 15th, 2008

The X factor helped to create yet another future super star on Saturday evening. Millions saw Alexandra Burke win the competition and a recording contract worth one million pounds. Simon Cowell says that he will help her become even bigger than Leona Lewis who won the competition in 2006.

The greatest part about this success story for us is that Alexandra competed in this competition 3 years ago and did not make it, which reminds us of one of the key presuppositions of NLP which is “there is no failure, only feedback”

So what does this mean?

Many people look at temporary set backs in their lives as failures and consequently give up their fight to achieve their goals. Had Alexandra Burke done that when she didn’t make it 3 years ago, she may not have even bothered to enter the competition again. But she had a dream of winning the competition so big that she was not put off by the temporary setback.

The presupposition “there is no failure, only feedback” is very powerful in that, no matter what result you get, if you look at it as a learning experience and therefore give your self the necessary feedback you need to be able to do things differently next time, it is always a better option than saying that you have failed.

Take a look at the things you have done in your life in the past where you may have wrongly labelled them as failures and re-evaluate them using this presupposition “there is no failure, only feedback” How can you learn from the results you got back them and apply the learnings in order to get different results next time round?

Remember, it took Thomas Edison over 9,999 attempts to create the electric light bulb and on every time he didn’t achieve his desired results; he didn’t look at them as failures, but looked at how he could learn from it. He said that “I didn’t fail 9,999 times, I found over 9,999 ways how NOT to create the electric light bulb.

Try this presupposition on for size over the next 30 days and see how different you think about situations. When you realize that this works in so many aspects in you life it will change the way you think for ever.

What stories we tell…

November 7th, 2008

What are you thinking right now?

What is that voice in your heading saying to you? If you’re saying to yourself “what voice?” – that’s the voice I’m taking about.

As the news is full of doom and gloom and the phrase credit crunch becomes possibly the most over used and least understood term on the planet, what is the story you are telling yourself?

You see, as simple as it may seem the story you tell yourself will impact your emotional state. Your emotional state drives your behaviour and the actions which you then take – which by the way includes your reaction to things.

I’m not saying that you should be positive and tell yourself that everything is fine – what I am saying is be aware of the stories running in your head. 

Ask yourself:

“What impact is this having on me?”

“What relationship does the story I’m telling myself, have on my interactions with other?”

“What story can I tell myself instead?”

Try it.

The next time you are listen to yourself and it’s pulling you down, change your story and see what happens.

I can guarantee you will feel different.